However, "why not" works as a healing tonic when things don't go our way - it provides us with the impetus to still move ahead. "Why not" allows us to accept situations we find ourselves in. This concept, once understood & practised, leads to confidence & opens new doors - simply by the fact that the practitioner is willing to work at it, rather than whining about it.
I would like to quote tennis legend, Arthur Ashe - whose words fit perfectly well with the context of this post: "If I were to say, 'God, why me?' about the bad things, then I should have said, 'God, why me?' about the good things that happened in my life." - just in case people reading this post don't know who Arthur Ashe was - well, he was the only African American player, ever, to win the singles title at Wimbledon, the US Open, or Australian Open.