Saturday 24 August 2013
If I had a penny for every time I thought to myself or someone around me exclaimed "that's not fair!!!" or "life's unfair"...I wouldn't need to work for money. There is no doubt that often outcomes are unfair, situations and / or people are partial (against us) and all this is frustrating.
For any scenario we face, there are choices in front of us in order to deal with it. In the instance when life seems unfair, we could get frustrated and feel bogged down...leading to heart burn and nothing positive coming out for us. Or we could try fighting unfairness, which may not bring about desirable results still. Another option is to accept this as some sort of a balancing plan that is beyond our current understanding. Needless to say, ideal is anyone who can work within these three and manage a healthy mix - situation to situation.
The most common cause of frustration is our general inability to strike a work-life balance. This is one of the trickiest vicious cycle...we work hard to make our life more comfortable...but work hard enough to not enjoy life! At times we intentionally focus more on one just to escape from the other.
Since it is not possible for us to get what we want, when we want and how we want...it is easy to understand where this 'unfairness' originates from. It is nothing but our own judgement of a scenario against how our own projection of the outcome.
No one's perfect...no one's got the perfect formula to live life...no one can claim to even have a formula close to perfect...there isn't a handbook anywhere...there aren't any notes from our seniors that we could refer to...essentially, we are on our own to figure out our life.
We never take a moment to think - when a decision falls in our favour, life could appear and actually be unfair to someone else. We never take a moment to think - how unfair are we being in our demand that all our wishes come true, all the time!
Posted by Mudit Aggarwal at 15:48